I believe there are two types of gay guys, those that want cock first and a connection second, and those that want a connection first and cock second. This division is something that has become incredibly visible within the community because it's often viewn through the lens of "the apps" [Grindr, Hornet, Scruff, Romeo, etc] which are very much geared towards those that want cock first and a connection second, whilst there are far fewer apps and services that cater to those that want a connection first, in fact the only two that really come to mind are Romeo and POF - the main reason I would say Romeo offers this is because you can explicitly set on your profile through a status what you're looking for, sex, dates, friends, chat etc, so it is dual functional. As for POF - Plenty of Fish, that is a dating site whose general schtick has always been to market itself as a match-making service with personality tests and things to try and match you with someone else, the efficacy of this we can discuss another time.
Unrequited Friendship
Much ado has been made over the years when it comes to the concept of unrequited love. I've been on both sides of that tête à tête so I have seen that story play out to its bitter end. I don't believe enough has been said however on the concept of unrequited friendship. The idea that a friendship exists and persists because of the efforts of one but not both sides.
It's easy to think that a friendship would fall apart quite quickly if one person didn't make any effort, the other would lose interest eventually, but unrequited friendships persist for the same reason that unrequited love often persists, that is, there isn't a complete lack of interest from one side but rather a trickle of interest that pales in comparison to the river of emotion that comes from the other side.
Seasons, Reasons, And Just For The Teasing
There's a guy on YouTube who makes ASMR videos who I am enamoured with. I discovered his channel about a year ago now, and everything about him is entrancing. His voice, his demeanour, his smile melts my heart. I had admired him from a distance for some time but my neurodivergent ways took over in the end, I spent some time looking through his social media to learn a bit more about him as a person, partly out of curiosity but also partly as a way to get over that crush.
He lives in France, that's where he's from; I assume he lives in Paris but he's never actually said in a video or anywhere else as far as I can see. He has made videos in some Paris landmarks though, which is why I have that assumption. He's around the same age as me, but again I only know this because of some of the things he's mentioned, he's never actually shared his age. I came across a few interesting coincidences though in some of the stories that he has told.